We have a challenge to bear up under the weight that weighs us down. In fact, life can be hard and can throw at us pretty bad stuff. Many times we are left bare with the things that life throws at us, that we are no party to, nor solicited for or can be blamed for. Life during periods of pain and turmoil like rape, incest, heartbreaks, fatal losses, and long periods of childlessness and joblessness...is termed cruel. Bouts of depression, feelings of regret that can culminate in suicidal thoughts and attempts take their toll on us.
Who will understand? We search deeply and truly wish that our sorrows will fly past us. Try as we may, the stigma and insignia of the pain and hurt won’t just leave. And our resistances continue to plummet in the face of our circumstances. Those times, present the perfect scenarios for us to throw in the towel and succumb to the fiery darts that have pierced our souls. But can we stand up to our misfortunes and misery? Do we have any antidote to the continued pain that continually bears its fangs on us?
Standing up is the answer. And it’s an answer that comes with its fair share of pain and heartaches. Our moments unleash their terror in torrents that make us lose sight of their vulnerability in the face of our resolve. Standing up to our adverse circumstances entails plenty of will and tenacity. This is more so when these are the targets the undesirable aches want to keep out of our reach.
Our will can be strained in the midst of continued exposure to adverse circumstances. This is the reason we have to ensure that we shield our will from the circumstances. In the centre of our crisis situations we have a task to ensure that our will to stand up receives adequate boost from outside the conditions. At those times, we need to get all the help we can to keep up our faith in the reversal of the status. We can only find a way out of our situations if we let our will to stand up to the challenges remain in our focus. Never, should we allow our condition overwhelm us. The more stuff that the state of affairs throw at us the more dogged we need to become in our resolve not to relent or give in.
We can win. And will always win, if we stand up and not despair or become distraught in the face of our adversities. If we realise that we will come off smiling at the end of day, it will do well for us to maintain that composure throughout the road to the reversal of fortunes. No doubt, it is not an easy ride and the route may not easily be discerned. Keep your focus on coming out the victor. That will always keep you going on; no matter how hard it becomes to hold on. Don’t let go, stand up to it and come off better for it.
Monday, December 22, 2008
Confront The Status-quo
Putting the set system to test is one further step many are unwilling to take. Tradition and routine are widespread amongst us because we are ‘satisfied’ with the set order. Challenging the system is in no way a means of bringing disorder to order. It is about putting to test what works and what does not work in the status symbols around the environment.
To face up to the status quo means you understand its workings and are able to project what results the system will always achieve. To defy these known outcomes of the system will require asking the right questions of ‘how can the system change?’ or ‘do the techniques employed in the system have the ability to fabricate the desired changes?’ Many more questions of ‘Who can lead the change?’, ‘What will tax the system to do more to achieve anticipated results?’ and ‘how can the system be put to the test?’
Lethargy and delays are essential elements to be resolved within if the fight to dare the system will be won. This is because a lot of courage, guts and nerves will have to be built up in the run up to status quo. Why is this so? The truth is many folks are feeding fat from the ineffective status quo and will literarily ‘kill’ (if they have to) to keep the order. For these folks, they care less whether the order exists for the benefit of the majority. Honestly, the ‘big picture’ is non-existent in their hearts as they are content with the ‘pocket-size’ portraits and outlooks.
What more will be required? Some provocations...yes, some taunting, some goading and a lot of risks will come into the fray. Ultimatums will have to be issued on the system and the status quo to produce the needed changes. And the timing of the considered necessary ultimatums on the system is crucial if the system will be made to crumble in its face. Remember this: the system has found a way of covering up its lapses over time and tact will be required to expose its frailties in face of churning out obligatory results.
A certain calmness and doggedness with some will and a God-confidence will need to be imbibed in this challenge. Prepare for surprises from the smallest and least quarters. This is so true. Consider and deal with the fact that trusted partners, friends, colleagues, associates and even mates may pose the greatest challenge towards your bringing about the needed change. It should not be over the top for you if the people that will benefit on the long-run do not give the needed support and backing when you want to lean on them.
A lot of ‘despite-the-odds and braving-all-odds’ will be required to re-order the system. A re-ordered system should be capable of reproducing the former results as well as the needed changes. That is what will put the critics of the re-ordering to back off and congratulate you when change is imminent and within reach.
Defy logic, set new standards, be consistent in your drive and bring about change.
To face up to the status quo means you understand its workings and are able to project what results the system will always achieve. To defy these known outcomes of the system will require asking the right questions of ‘how can the system change?’ or ‘do the techniques employed in the system have the ability to fabricate the desired changes?’ Many more questions of ‘Who can lead the change?’, ‘What will tax the system to do more to achieve anticipated results?’ and ‘how can the system be put to the test?’
Lethargy and delays are essential elements to be resolved within if the fight to dare the system will be won. This is because a lot of courage, guts and nerves will have to be built up in the run up to status quo. Why is this so? The truth is many folks are feeding fat from the ineffective status quo and will literarily ‘kill’ (if they have to) to keep the order. For these folks, they care less whether the order exists for the benefit of the majority. Honestly, the ‘big picture’ is non-existent in their hearts as they are content with the ‘pocket-size’ portraits and outlooks.
What more will be required? Some provocations...yes, some taunting, some goading and a lot of risks will come into the fray. Ultimatums will have to be issued on the system and the status quo to produce the needed changes. And the timing of the considered necessary ultimatums on the system is crucial if the system will be made to crumble in its face. Remember this: the system has found a way of covering up its lapses over time and tact will be required to expose its frailties in face of churning out obligatory results.
A certain calmness and doggedness with some will and a God-confidence will need to be imbibed in this challenge. Prepare for surprises from the smallest and least quarters. This is so true. Consider and deal with the fact that trusted partners, friends, colleagues, associates and even mates may pose the greatest challenge towards your bringing about the needed change. It should not be over the top for you if the people that will benefit on the long-run do not give the needed support and backing when you want to lean on them.
A lot of ‘despite-the-odds and braving-all-odds’ will be required to re-order the system. A re-ordered system should be capable of reproducing the former results as well as the needed changes. That is what will put the critics of the re-ordering to back off and congratulate you when change is imminent and within reach.
Defy logic, set new standards, be consistent in your drive and bring about change.
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Don't Face The World Alone
Being all in one (alone) is never good for anyone. Life is about memories, about relationships, about living, about loving. You just might be doing yourself a great disservice if you set out to face life on your own.
It’s hard to notice when the world around you is ebbing away. It creeps in slowly because work, worries and hell are all fighting for space in your head.
In the midnight times when your worries and doubts have left you bone dry, you get blown out. You look around for help and realise help was long gone. How did you get yourself into this mess?
It is rather easy to tell. You let the work and worries suffocate the energy and vibrancy of your cherished friendships. Your friendships took the best possible route and chose to have some fresh air...elsewhere. Your worries never allowed you to have peace within or even take notice of help sources.
Life was never designed for you to tread its paths on your own. At every point, life designed ‘help meets’ to carry you along. The experiences of people (in books and testimonials), advice and counsels are those help meets. And you will do a lot better being in their midst.
Trust me; life on one’s own is a lonely one. Try it and you will fail at all attempts. You will need some measure of hope, and some strength and some courage and some love. And those are the reasons you don’t need to face the world on your own.
Really, you can’t provide all these by yourself, for yourself. Get rid of the haughty feelings and ‘I-can-handle-it-by-myself’ air. If you will have any push to go on in this life, you will need to lock arms with the next brother, sister, friend, colleague, classmate, and partner. If you truly have aspirations and desire fulfilment, then you need to drop the ‘I-can-pay-the-bills-all-by-myself’ mantra. You will need help along the way. Help will be needed in plenty doses especially at those times when you don’t deserve it.
See the need in your life. Don’t deny it. You'll need somebody to pick you up, brush you off and bring you back every time you fall. Will you ever fall? Yes, many times.
Don’t allow anxiety blind you or get lost in emotions. Do yourself a favour, open up your heart. Don’t face the world alone.
It’s hard to notice when the world around you is ebbing away. It creeps in slowly because work, worries and hell are all fighting for space in your head.
In the midnight times when your worries and doubts have left you bone dry, you get blown out. You look around for help and realise help was long gone. How did you get yourself into this mess?
It is rather easy to tell. You let the work and worries suffocate the energy and vibrancy of your cherished friendships. Your friendships took the best possible route and chose to have some fresh air...elsewhere. Your worries never allowed you to have peace within or even take notice of help sources.
Life was never designed for you to tread its paths on your own. At every point, life designed ‘help meets’ to carry you along. The experiences of people (in books and testimonials), advice and counsels are those help meets. And you will do a lot better being in their midst.
Trust me; life on one’s own is a lonely one. Try it and you will fail at all attempts. You will need some measure of hope, and some strength and some courage and some love. And those are the reasons you don’t need to face the world on your own.
Really, you can’t provide all these by yourself, for yourself. Get rid of the haughty feelings and ‘I-can-handle-it-by-myself’ air. If you will have any push to go on in this life, you will need to lock arms with the next brother, sister, friend, colleague, classmate, and partner. If you truly have aspirations and desire fulfilment, then you need to drop the ‘I-can-pay-the-bills-all-by-myself’ mantra. You will need help along the way. Help will be needed in plenty doses especially at those times when you don’t deserve it.
See the need in your life. Don’t deny it. You'll need somebody to pick you up, brush you off and bring you back every time you fall. Will you ever fall? Yes, many times.
Don’t allow anxiety blind you or get lost in emotions. Do yourself a favour, open up your heart. Don’t face the world alone.
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
(Re) Align Your Friendhips
Every day we struggle to keep up with the pressures of the different friendships we have. Whether in the home or at work, we are never getting to grips with our friendships.
How can we know which friendships are helpful and which ones are harmful? What can we do to get our ailing friendships back on track and how can we even maintain them afterwards? Who and what can constitute a friend or friendship? What are the things to look out for in friendships?
With just about everything and anything struggling to get our attentions, our friendships should not add to the list. Friendships are to help us focus and not to look around and be on the edge.
I heard a friend once say friendship is not by force. And really, they should never be. Friendships-whether cherished or not-should always be about something. Finding a common ground for friendships will help keep every friendship in its place. And keep you going on and being upbeat about the friendship.
Sincerely, we need to be able to answer in one sentence questions on why we have the friends we have and why the next person doesn’t fit in with our picture of friendship.
It’s good to know that we are friends with the next person because the person helps us get by on the job. Membership of the Arsenal Fan’s Club or the Design Team or the Green hands can also trigger off friendship bells. Obviously, there has to be a reason for friendship.
What of unconditional love? Well, liking somebody because you are obligated to (due to religious doctrines) does not translate to obligatory friendships. This is because there is no such thing as that. Frienships enjoy different degrees of shaing and exchange moments. And unconditionally loving people does not mean they have to become your friends.
On the job, it is vital to get every friendship into perspective. Let friendships align with the overall corporate objectives of the workplace. Friendships that make us spend long hours outside given tasks can only bring headaches. At the same time friendships that will not allow us do what is officially right, will put our company’s bottom-line into jeopardy. The take here is: realise that the friendships in the workplace exist because of the job and the company’s corporate objectives should never be comprised on the platter of the friendships. Discard friendships that tend to get in-between the corporate objectives of your firm and makes you want to twist things even a little bit.
At home, it is vital to know which set of friendships will bring about peaceful co-existence and unity. Relationships with siblings and parents should all be streamlined for the good of the family unit. Hiding behind the facts and telling half-truths due to friendship inclinations will only spell doom for the unit. It is always good to speak up for friendships that are being trampled upon and friendships that can bring about the needed peace around the home. It is vital to know that the friendships here are more of future ties and so openness becomes inevitable.
On campus, establish friendships along particular lines. Get a prayer buddy for religious affiliations. Get a reading partner for specific courses. And get a lecturer friend for the intricacies of balance and moderation on campus.
I forgot intimacy right?
Intimate friendships should be respectful friendships. They should have respect for the next person and his or her time. And such friendships should allow you to be yourself and be free. You can do a lot by keeping the lines of communication open in this cadre.
Mentorship relationships are rare. But they can be found and should be cherished. Let mentors know your struggles and heartaches. Let them know just how much they are appreciated.
How can we know which friendships are helpful and which ones are harmful? What can we do to get our ailing friendships back on track and how can we even maintain them afterwards? Who and what can constitute a friend or friendship? What are the things to look out for in friendships?
With just about everything and anything struggling to get our attentions, our friendships should not add to the list. Friendships are to help us focus and not to look around and be on the edge.
I heard a friend once say friendship is not by force. And really, they should never be. Friendships-whether cherished or not-should always be about something. Finding a common ground for friendships will help keep every friendship in its place. And keep you going on and being upbeat about the friendship.
Sincerely, we need to be able to answer in one sentence questions on why we have the friends we have and why the next person doesn’t fit in with our picture of friendship.
It’s good to know that we are friends with the next person because the person helps us get by on the job. Membership of the Arsenal Fan’s Club or the Design Team or the Green hands can also trigger off friendship bells. Obviously, there has to be a reason for friendship.
What of unconditional love? Well, liking somebody because you are obligated to (due to religious doctrines) does not translate to obligatory friendships. This is because there is no such thing as that. Frienships enjoy different degrees of shaing and exchange moments. And unconditionally loving people does not mean they have to become your friends.
On the job, it is vital to get every friendship into perspective. Let friendships align with the overall corporate objectives of the workplace. Friendships that make us spend long hours outside given tasks can only bring headaches. At the same time friendships that will not allow us do what is officially right, will put our company’s bottom-line into jeopardy. The take here is: realise that the friendships in the workplace exist because of the job and the company’s corporate objectives should never be comprised on the platter of the friendships. Discard friendships that tend to get in-between the corporate objectives of your firm and makes you want to twist things even a little bit.
At home, it is vital to know which set of friendships will bring about peaceful co-existence and unity. Relationships with siblings and parents should all be streamlined for the good of the family unit. Hiding behind the facts and telling half-truths due to friendship inclinations will only spell doom for the unit. It is always good to speak up for friendships that are being trampled upon and friendships that can bring about the needed peace around the home. It is vital to know that the friendships here are more of future ties and so openness becomes inevitable.
On campus, establish friendships along particular lines. Get a prayer buddy for religious affiliations. Get a reading partner for specific courses. And get a lecturer friend for the intricacies of balance and moderation on campus.
I forgot intimacy right?
Intimate friendships should be respectful friendships. They should have respect for the next person and his or her time. And such friendships should allow you to be yourself and be free. You can do a lot by keeping the lines of communication open in this cadre.
Mentorship relationships are rare. But they can be found and should be cherished. Let mentors know your struggles and heartaches. Let them know just how much they are appreciated.
Be There For The Tears
Someone you care about
has a broken heart
you want to be a friend
but you don't know where to start
there are no words to say
that could ever be enough
how can you show them your love?
Greg Long
has a broken heart
you want to be a friend
but you don't know where to start
there are no words to say
that could ever be enough
how can you show them your love?
Greg Long
The question is direct. How can you show love to someone you care about when you don’t know where to start?
Severally, we are at a loss. It’s one thing to have the answers to things you can comprehend. It’s a whole new ball game when you don’t have the answers to your friends piercing questions-about heartbreaks, heartaches and headaches.
Those times you realise words are not enough. Hard as you may try, there is no easy way to make them feel alright. And you can only watch as the tears well up in your friend’s eyes. You become numb when you see your friend break into heavy sobs. And all you can gather is an unnerving gaze. And more questions upon questions.
You offer a pat on the back, the tears don’t stop. You offer a handkerchief, the tears only increase. And then it hits you, “just allow the tears”.
Don’t allow the urge to be ‘I-know-it-all’ to stop your friend from enjoying this rare moment-the ‘no-holds-barred’ moment. It is a refreshing experience that every friendship that you hold to heart should experience.
So if you desire to lend your friend your faith and walk them through the dark, help somebody cry. Hold their hand and watch them heal through the tears.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Get Ahead of the Game
Getting through the motions is always awful. Getting caught, especailly with our guards down, leaves us distraught and devastated. And will leave us wishing Life will be kind and eat us up. But hey! how did you get here in the first place?
You see, Life asks its questions way ahead of time. Unfortunately, the many things that (we allow to) clutter our life hardly give room for us to prepare our answers way ahead. And Life will strike with its calamities, hurts, let-downs, losses, frustrations, pains... when we least expect.
Taking five minutes everyday to reflect on the basics will be a very helpful starting point.
Why do we always rush into our days? Who ever said we were best suited for going around in circles? We won't be helping ourselves one bit if we don't sit with ourselves and determine what is good for us and what we are good for.
Make honest assessments of yourself. Don't underestimate your frailties , neither overestimate your abilities. Either way, you will be an easy prey for Life. Self assessments are simple ''What can I take and what can I not take?'' questions that bother on character, integrity, will and reputation. It spills over to 'What am I living for and what can I leave all for?'' These questions will lead you to find your purpose and destiny in this life. Without any known purpose for your life, anything and everything that Life unleashes will get to you.
Next stop, you need to throw some weight behind your self-confidence by adding a God-confidence. The truth here is this: our strengths are by themselves very fallible and will always lead us to the gallows that Life will put before us.
Getting a head of the game, is serious business hunters will testify. It requires some serious planning and real strategies. Our tactics will have to be able to detect danger afar off. And deal with same in the now before they occur.
It's about an insurance policy that will idemnify you ahead of Life's tests, trials, tribulations and turmoils. Remember this: you will always have to bear up under different weights. And you will only survive if you will sit down today and determine what things you allow get to you and what things you will have to bulldose your way to get to.
Plan, Prioritise, Project and Push for the prize-the head of the game. Manage distractions and keep your focus. Get to work in the know, forget the how. The how can only be seen in hindsight long after you've worked it.
Really, you will survive. Get started on the task at hand. Don't allow Life give you the creeps. Respond to its threats-never react. Step out today with the goal of getting ahead of the game. And watch as Life's threats crumble before you in packs.
You see, Life asks its questions way ahead of time. Unfortunately, the many things that (we allow to) clutter our life hardly give room for us to prepare our answers way ahead. And Life will strike with its calamities, hurts, let-downs, losses, frustrations, pains... when we least expect.
Taking five minutes everyday to reflect on the basics will be a very helpful starting point.
Why do we always rush into our days? Who ever said we were best suited for going around in circles? We won't be helping ourselves one bit if we don't sit with ourselves and determine what is good for us and what we are good for.
Make honest assessments of yourself. Don't underestimate your frailties , neither overestimate your abilities. Either way, you will be an easy prey for Life. Self assessments are simple ''What can I take and what can I not take?'' questions that bother on character, integrity, will and reputation. It spills over to 'What am I living for and what can I leave all for?'' These questions will lead you to find your purpose and destiny in this life. Without any known purpose for your life, anything and everything that Life unleashes will get to you.
Next stop, you need to throw some weight behind your self-confidence by adding a God-confidence. The truth here is this: our strengths are by themselves very fallible and will always lead us to the gallows that Life will put before us.
Getting a head of the game, is serious business hunters will testify. It requires some serious planning and real strategies. Our tactics will have to be able to detect danger afar off. And deal with same in the now before they occur.
It's about an insurance policy that will idemnify you ahead of Life's tests, trials, tribulations and turmoils. Remember this: you will always have to bear up under different weights. And you will only survive if you will sit down today and determine what things you allow get to you and what things you will have to bulldose your way to get to.
Plan, Prioritise, Project and Push for the prize-the head of the game. Manage distractions and keep your focus. Get to work in the know, forget the how. The how can only be seen in hindsight long after you've worked it.
Really, you will survive. Get started on the task at hand. Don't allow Life give you the creeps. Respond to its threats-never react. Step out today with the goal of getting ahead of the game. And watch as Life's threats crumble before you in packs.
Expect The Best, Always.
It was a week after the battering. The fact that it was not physical only increased the hurt. The very people I had stuck out my neck, were the ones tearing it into shreds. When my good friend saw through me and my pain, his advice was simple: “Uncle Bobs, don’t expect much from people”.
The reality check was soothing-only momentary though. I realized my friend was just telling me in my face “Hey! Dude, I could also be part of that crowd that want you out!”
So, when I got bashed a year after from a ‘trusted’ friend, my good friend’s theory fitted perfectly. But my standpoint was not getting me my heart’s desires from friendships. Sacrifice, camaraderie, openness, being there…were the ideals I craved for. What did I get? Plenty of selfishness, plenty of ‘out-of-sight-out-of-mind’ friendships and more hurt from friends…left me in great pain, feeling betrayed and being distraught about friendships. After all, I had learnt not to expect much from people. Pronto! That was the problem.
My lowered expectations had produced suspicions in my friends and made them to shut the doors of openness, sacrifice and being there. My flawed expectations were transparent to all. And as I sought a way out of my dilemma, I realized I had to learn to always raise the ante. I had to expect the best always.
It will make more sense to always keep your expectations high. That’s the only way to get rid of the suspicions that hinder our friends from giving us the best.
“Once beaten, twice shy?” “No, that will not hold water”. Our experiences are to make us better and not bitter. They should never inhibit us from experiencing the fullness thereof. Never use them as control mechanisms. They will only undo us by lowering our expectations from our relationships.
It doesn’t hurt to expect the best. If anybody has a problem with you expecting the best from your friendships, then it’s the person’s problem. A point to note though: give people the room to rise to your expectations. It will always be a great self destruct when you lower your expectations.
Once heard a preacher say, “Don’t ask for anything, ask for all things”. It’s not about whether you can expect the best. It’s about whether you will. There is no harm in your expecting the best..anytime, anywhere, anyhow.
The reality check was soothing-only momentary though. I realized my friend was just telling me in my face “Hey! Dude, I could also be part of that crowd that want you out!”
So, when I got bashed a year after from a ‘trusted’ friend, my good friend’s theory fitted perfectly. But my standpoint was not getting me my heart’s desires from friendships. Sacrifice, camaraderie, openness, being there…were the ideals I craved for. What did I get? Plenty of selfishness, plenty of ‘out-of-sight-out-of-mind’ friendships and more hurt from friends…left me in great pain, feeling betrayed and being distraught about friendships. After all, I had learnt not to expect much from people. Pronto! That was the problem.
My lowered expectations had produced suspicions in my friends and made them to shut the doors of openness, sacrifice and being there. My flawed expectations were transparent to all. And as I sought a way out of my dilemma, I realized I had to learn to always raise the ante. I had to expect the best always.
It will make more sense to always keep your expectations high. That’s the only way to get rid of the suspicions that hinder our friends from giving us the best.
“Once beaten, twice shy?” “No, that will not hold water”. Our experiences are to make us better and not bitter. They should never inhibit us from experiencing the fullness thereof. Never use them as control mechanisms. They will only undo us by lowering our expectations from our relationships.
It doesn’t hurt to expect the best. If anybody has a problem with you expecting the best from your friendships, then it’s the person’s problem. A point to note though: give people the room to rise to your expectations. It will always be a great self destruct when you lower your expectations.
Once heard a preacher say, “Don’t ask for anything, ask for all things”. It’s not about whether you can expect the best. It’s about whether you will. There is no harm in your expecting the best..anytime, anywhere, anyhow.
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Kill Your Propensities and Proclivities
yRight from the word go, they have never brought us any good. But we hardly learn our lessons. We get caught up in the cloud and will always tilt towards them. Why is it so?
"They are just natural" may be an apt reply. Does that mean we are really helpless in the face of them? Do we have any sort of control over them? "Oh my heavens, yes!". Do lies and exaggerations, cheating and callousness...have a firm grip on us? ''Hell no!"
Our propensities represent those tendencies for particular kinds of behaviour. They are never so powerful in themselves. They rapidly take up space within us and grow-the space we allow them to. The more space they fill up, the more they make us feel helpless.
What of our proclivities? Every tendency and feeling that makes us want to do something-usually something bad make for our proclivities. A proclivity for sex, or criminality will thus be in place.
Any connections? Well, they both seem to flow freely from our inside. "Aha!" you may say now. But hold on. It's more than that.
Really, think about the chaos that will be in place if every one responded to their natural inclinations freely without recourse to second thoughts. We are not animals. Never. We represent the highest form of beings and can do well to remain there.
I know sometimes (or as we may erroneously think, most times) lies keep us from harm. But for how long can we keep the pendulum swinging only in the direction of the lies. Don't miss this: we have total control over our actions. We tend to find reasons and excuses for cover up. Whatever reasons- cogent or not-they will remain excuses.
What's wrong with having sex all the time? Moderation should be the key in every action. Can you keep eating all day and not have adverse effects?
We can set ourselves free from every propensity and proclivity that we have given in to. Don't take a mad dash into the crowd. Life is a marathon, so go slow... and steady. Don't get caught up in the rush-to be part of the clique or group, or class. If you do, that's one sure way to set your propensities and proclivities on the go.
What's more? Set ideal goals for yourself. If you can't go the whole hog, say so. Don't give impressions that you've 'got-it-going-on' when 'it-has-got-you-going-on'. It will save you from embarassments that our propensities and proclivities thrive on.
Sometimes, it's good to be laughed at. Enjoy those times. And look forward to times you can be laughed with. Really, vengeance does no good. It can only eat you hollow. And vengeance provides a good breeding ground too.
There is so much more. Any thing that easily sways us into doing the things we will regret, does not mean good for us. And our propensities and proclivities will always bring along plenty regrets.
We can always do without half-truths, because in their best forms, they are simply lies. Live within your means. This in no way negates higher aspirations. It's the contentment and joy you stand to gain that is the focus here. And contentment and joy present great anti-dotes to our propensities and proclivities. Just as a pervading peace and understanding of life can do.
Last word: our propensities and proclivities can only set us against ourselves. Let's get rid of them anyhow. It may take a while and you may stumble now and then. And even get trampled upon by the very prospensities and proclivities. But keep keeping on. Don't stop on the tracks, you've got to fight to the end. And set yourselve loose.
"They are just natural" may be an apt reply. Does that mean we are really helpless in the face of them? Do we have any sort of control over them? "Oh my heavens, yes!". Do lies and exaggerations, cheating and callousness...have a firm grip on us? ''Hell no!"
Our propensities represent those tendencies for particular kinds of behaviour. They are never so powerful in themselves. They rapidly take up space within us and grow-the space we allow them to. The more space they fill up, the more they make us feel helpless.
What of our proclivities? Every tendency and feeling that makes us want to do something-usually something bad make for our proclivities. A proclivity for sex, or criminality will thus be in place.
Any connections? Well, they both seem to flow freely from our inside. "Aha!" you may say now. But hold on. It's more than that.
Really, think about the chaos that will be in place if every one responded to their natural inclinations freely without recourse to second thoughts. We are not animals. Never. We represent the highest form of beings and can do well to remain there.
I know sometimes (or as we may erroneously think, most times) lies keep us from harm. But for how long can we keep the pendulum swinging only in the direction of the lies. Don't miss this: we have total control over our actions. We tend to find reasons and excuses for cover up. Whatever reasons- cogent or not-they will remain excuses.
What's wrong with having sex all the time? Moderation should be the key in every action. Can you keep eating all day and not have adverse effects?
We can set ourselves free from every propensity and proclivity that we have given in to. Don't take a mad dash into the crowd. Life is a marathon, so go slow... and steady. Don't get caught up in the rush-to be part of the clique or group, or class. If you do, that's one sure way to set your propensities and proclivities on the go.
What's more? Set ideal goals for yourself. If you can't go the whole hog, say so. Don't give impressions that you've 'got-it-going-on' when 'it-has-got-you-going-on'. It will save you from embarassments that our propensities and proclivities thrive on.
Sometimes, it's good to be laughed at. Enjoy those times. And look forward to times you can be laughed with. Really, vengeance does no good. It can only eat you hollow. And vengeance provides a good breeding ground too.
There is so much more. Any thing that easily sways us into doing the things we will regret, does not mean good for us. And our propensities and proclivities will always bring along plenty regrets.
We can always do without half-truths, because in their best forms, they are simply lies. Live within your means. This in no way negates higher aspirations. It's the contentment and joy you stand to gain that is the focus here. And contentment and joy present great anti-dotes to our propensities and proclivities. Just as a pervading peace and understanding of life can do.
Last word: our propensities and proclivities can only set us against ourselves. Let's get rid of them anyhow. It may take a while and you may stumble now and then. And even get trampled upon by the very prospensities and proclivities. But keep keeping on. Don't stop on the tracks, you've got to fight to the end. And set yourselve loose.
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