When You Measure A Man...

The stage is set...for one of your own to come on. With all of the great aplomb your own has just bungled it again. This time, it is really painful because it was after a third chance for your own to make amends. You have been let down once more. And this time it’s one too many. Your own has tipped you over. He has become a write off. For all you care ‘He can ...off’.
Ooh! That was really hard. ‘’It doesn’t matter,” you say. He can take a walk ‘for all you care’. You have had enough of the valleys and hills to ‘no where’ in your friend’s life. “Enough is enough”. And off you go and leave your friend in his ‘nemesis’.
But if you’ll just hold on, when do you think is the best time to love somebody the most? I mean to be there ...for your own? Is it when yours is all straightened out and all together or when it is all tangled up and pathetic with your pal? Is when somebody’s done good and made things easy for everybody and you? Is that what you think?
A man’s valleys and hills are dreadful moments. They are moments when his hopes and dreams come crashing in his face. And he can’t even decide which part represents honour and which part represents dishonour. Getting by through any means seems to be the most reasonable option. Dignity and pride are at the lowest ebb. That is when your own becomes a toothless rat, stripped bare of anything that made him a man. He is on his knees and there is nothing left ,of him, to love.
And leaving him to all of these misfortunes can be a bigger blow than the let down itself. If there was to be any silver lining in the sky, they will be very bleak to him...since there was no you to point them at them for him. Deciding to ditch your friend and taking your love along with you will be wise...only if you think love is all about red roses. And of course...you are inconsiderate. And you are not done learning.
There is always something left to love. Cry for your friend. Send out a prayer on his behalf...for what he has been through. And for what his ‘been throughs’ have done to him. Show your friend the strength.
The time to love the most is when your own is at his lowest and can’t believe in himself because his ‘been throughs’ and the world around him left him spineless.
Measuring your own by his failures only can present you to be very selfish and lacking wisdom. When you start to measure somebody, it is good that you measure right. Measure your own right. Ensure that you take into account all the hills and valleys that your own has come through before he bungled things up...again.

Fly Above The Clouds

It’s the turn of the year and the perfect time to look forward to new things. What will they be? How will they happen? That’s for another time. This time, we just want to get the ball rolling.
The whole business of getting things sorted out seems to be an unending cycle. But can we get things done? Yes, of course. But will the clouds that always threaten to bring down the heavy downpours of hurt, anguish and horrors give us space?
We are sometimes too determined to go through the hurt and pain that we forget we can fly above them. It’s good to testify of the ‘went-throughs’ but it’s better to testify of the ‘soaring-throughs’.
Life has taught us to stay put and fight all battles. And same life presents a better option of flying above the clouds of challenges. How do we get a hang of this? The fact that we have developed some attachments to fighting through our battles almost makes us believe it is impossible to soar through them.
Now, did I hear somebody say “count your costs before takeoff!”. Well, that’s great but it is never about dismissing the imminent but more of riding high through the situation. It’s not magic. It’s about sorting out things even before things crop up.
This is a step that must be undertaken even before the pressures mount. For any and every venture it will be worthwhile to see through to the end. This requires some great. And thank God we have two eyes. It is an inward search that requires us to respond to our battles and not react to them. Picture potential trouble spots along the way and determine the lines of response from day one. Pronto!
It’s a ‘despite’, ‘in spite of’, ‘never-the-less’, ‘doesn’t–matter’, ‘not-perturbed’ stand in the midst of adversities and storm. Beyond these, it goes on to wearing the corresponding countenances of ‘I-have-been-through-this-before’, ‘this-will-only-turn-out-for-my-good’, and ‘I-know-how-this-will pan out’.
Every disposition and action in this resolve must tell the story of ‘life is still great despite the stormy clouds’. The situation must be made to realise that your bounce, your radiance, your charm, your passion, your tenacity... can never be affected by it.
Hey! It’s not a denial theory. It’s a reality check on the situation that always presents itself as having all the aces. This is because every situation that tends to tear you down is myopic. It has no clue on how you will take it. If you react, the situation wins and if you respond the situation becomes confused. And will flee if it cannot get you down by tearing your mind apart and creating fear, anger and turmoil. It will look helpless if you will not allow it heat you up with vexation.
Upset not yourself. Keep your head above the raging seas and waters. Get on the ride above the clouds. That’s the only way to maintain a clear head and see over the storm. You got to see above the storm. Keep your head up. Take control of the reins of your situation and ride it. Only then will you be flying above the clouds.
Ride baby, ride and enjoy the plesantness that up above the clouds presents.